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Dennis,

Please file a complaint with the Better Business Bureau regarding your Twitter suspension. It's homophobic on Twitter's part and they shouldn't get away with it. Your tweet was nothing more than a classic tactic of rhetorical debate: shock + compare/contrast reasoning. It shouldn't matter if people agree with that comparison or not.

You're entitled to have an opinion on the effects of AIDS vs gender ideology on the gay community. You speak from a place of experience, compassionate pragmatism, and great concern for the fate of the gay community and that is obvious from your timeline. I've followed you for quite a while now and, while I don't know you, obviously, I have not seen a man with hate in his heart. Quite the opposite. I see a man who has immense empathy, who hurts for his people, who wants so much to protect LGB people especially the younger generations, and is understandably angry with the assault on his community and on reason. I see someone who is human, raw, and willing to put himself out there - flaws and all - and take risks to speak up in hopes of bringing the world back to something resembling sanity. I see someone just mad enough to be brave in the face of overwhelming odds.

People may find your tweet distasteful - it is, the horrifying reality of it is distasteful - but you weren't wrong. As covid has proven, it is easier to get control of an actual virus than it is to control toxic, destructive social narratives. The US has lost 984,000+ people to covid not because of the virus but because of social attitudes, social movements, online brainwashing that convinced people that up is down and they didn't need masks or vaccines, that brainwashed them into believing in a completely alternate reality. Not even '1984' prepared us for the amount of death that could come from social programming and it certainly didn't prepare us for the mutilation of children to fit a socially constructed, homophobic, misogynistic belief system.

I got into this when I realized that self-ID meant that abusers could potentially follow their victims into domestic violence shelters. It terrified me and I dug in from there. Seeing homophobia framed as progress enraged me. When I learned what was happening to kids and that so many of them were LGB, autistic, and victims of sexual trauma, I knew I could never look back no matter what. I knew I made the right decision when my own daughter came out to me as a lesbian and I could see how easily she in particular could be led down a path of medicalization, mutilation, internalized homophobia, self-hatred, dysfunction, and despair.

We all come to this movement for sanity from different backgrounds, for different reasons. We're imperfect advocates, all of us, no matter our experience and expertise. But we are united by our empathy, our outrage, and behind each of our individual reasons and motivations is a common cry of, "Enough. No more." And like so many movements in the past, we need men, particularly gay men, to speak up and to help all of us understand and navigate the tides of privilege, power, bigotry, patriarchy, ignorance, and indifference that are working against us - tides that gay men have been simultaneously swimming in *and against* their whole lives. Gay men have a unique ability to be some of the most insightful navigators and most effective defenders in this fight. Your voice matters, Dennis.

The BBB complaint process is easy and their appeals process often works, unlike Twitter's which is just a black hole. I hope you make it back onto Twitter. I for one will miss you if you don't, but I certainly understand if you're fed up.

Whatever happens, I wish you luck, happiness, peace, and good health. 💜

Your friendly neighborhood bisexual,

Raevynnia

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@STILLTish's avatar

Superb. We are marketing this to gay youth with devastating effect!

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